Hello! For the record, I’m still a young woman. Yet about three times a week, someone will ask me some variation of “Why aren’t you married?” I have nothing against marrying young. In fact, I encouraged it for a very long time, often pitting marriage at the age of 23-25 against the “dire” option of […]
A friend of mine jolted me out of my procrastination by linking to an article on Thought Catalog about things you should never ask a woman. I said “Oh, no! I wanted to blog that!” and was relieved when I skimmed through the article and found that it was different from this list, which I […]
Hey, all. I’d like to begin by apologizing for the comment issues on this blog. I’m always messing around with the settings and didn’t realize that the default comment setting had been set to “Do Not Allow”, possibly for months now. I thought Disqus was playing me but it’s probably my fault. Poleni. I need […]
Ngozi, I remember the time in 2011 when you suddenly went quiet and I wondered what was going on. At some point in that season, I thought maybe you had had a baby outside wedlock and just needed some time to yourself. I didn’t want to ask. I knew that if I needed to know, […]
Dear guys, I just read a post on The Art of Manliness and freaked out at the thought that someone might actually try the advice offered in the article. I deeply appreciate the author’s attempt at romance and I respect that his wife loved it, but I would not recommend this as a Valentine’s Day […]
Hey, lady. I generally believe in rolling with the punches. Through the years, I came to the conclusion that one must have a thick skin and refuse to allow anything to slow one’s pace in this race. My attitude generally was, “Okay, so ABC happened. Well, too bad. God is still on the throne. One […]
Dear guys, This is going to be a long one. For those of you cannot handle the 2,000-word letter this is likely to become, please scroll down for the TL;DR* at the end. A good friend of mine gave me a good laugh a few hours ago (edit: I wrote this on Nov 30) when […]
Peter: I hope this finds you well. I recently wrote something on the Friend Zone and intended to post it before this, but because it’s addressed to men, I have to find a way to edit it down from the 2000-word letter it currently is to a more palatable length. In the meantime, here’s the […]
Hey, lady! It’s a beautiful day today, despite the clouds and the flurries. Ever have one of those days where you just feel beautiful and blessed no matter what is going on? It is said that every single woman hides in her heart a poignant memory of The One That Got Away. The Mr. Right […]
Hey! I’m trying to stick to my resolution not to post what seem like prescriptive letters and instead start to document more of the learning aspect of my life. So far, the month has been really heavy. October started so beautifully and appeared full of promise but toward the end of the month, everything seemed […]