Do you ever stop to ask yourself why you believe the things you do? I mean, have you ever just woken up one morning, stood in front of a mirror, looked yourself in the eye and said, “Self, real talk… Is X true? WHY? Says who?”

I believe it should be every woman’s policy to take a moment every so often just to think about what she believes and why she believes it. Our experiences form the backdrop for our beliefs, and our beliefs are the foundation for our actions. Every action is a seed sown towards our destiny. I might not be able to control all my experiences, but I have the capacity and the responsibility to monitor what I believe and why, because it is evident that both successful interactions in this realm and a glorious entry into the next hinge heavily on my persuasions and the actions they inspire.

Simply put: what I believe can determine what I become and where I go.

Here’s a common example. How many times have we felt the conviction that a true friend is one who will support us no matter what? “If you’re ever in jail,” a popular joke goes, “a good friend will bail you out. A best friend will be sitting right next to you in the same cell, saying ‘Wow, that was fun!’”

But let’s think about it. How wise or healthy is it to have a friend who will cover for us, have our back, agree with us, no matter what?

Support is good, but only to the extent that it enriches our journey and improves the lives of those around us. Not everybody who congratulates us wishes us well. And many people who wish us well may give us bad advice. There is such a thing as supporting a person as they cruise towards destruction. There is a type of support that breeds only stagnation. If you hang around me long enough, you’ll hear me say often that there is no such thing as stagnation; you’re either progressing or regressing, growing or becoming stunted, blooming or withering, thriving or languishing, and yes, living or dying.

Is it ever okay to settle for less when you were created for more? Jesus said He came that we may have life, and that more abundantly (John 10:10). There’s a big difference between being humble and having, doing, or being less than God desires for us. Good, as we all know, is the enemy of best, and nowhere does this ring truer than in our service to the Lord. Mediocrity and complacency are every woman’s greatest enemy. I put it to you that contentment has its place and can often be a dangerous stance.

Disagree? Here, I’ll break it down: What would history be if some of the people we know had settled? Hannah’s husband seemed to think it was okay that he had no children by her. But what if she had been content in her barrenness? What would history be without Samuel? Elisha told the Shunammite woman to return to her house – what if she had? What if Bartimaeus had settled for blindness, which seemed to be his lifelong portion, and Daniel had settled for the king’s food simply because it was the king’s?

Have you looked around and allowed your circumstances to trick you into settling for less than you should? Could it be that in getting comfy with what you view as success, you’re throwing away the opportunity to be and do more? Does your selection of friends demonstrate a choice you have made to settle, or a choice to grow? Do your prayers reflect a complacent mentality? Have you put off childish things and grown into “manhood” and “sonship”? Is anything good enough for you just because it’s good enough for the king? Who tells you “Well done,” people, or Jesus?

What are YOU settling for?

Touch a life today…



settle for
— vb
( intr, preposition ) to accept or agree to in spite of dispute or dissatisfaction
– World English Dictionary

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